Possibility Map

Hey - It’s Michael.

Had some super inspiring conversations & experiences the last week - life’s good! Enjoy the newsletter!

You finish school and people ask you what you’re gonna do. No idea.

You finish uni and people ask you where you’re gonna work. No idea.

You quit your job and people ask you what you’re gonna do next. No idea.

Your colleague asks you how to structure the deal. No idea.

Your partner asks you about clarifying your relationship. No answer.

Your friend asks you about which sport to do next. No clue.

Your family asks you in which city you wanna live. No plan.

It can be hard to find (out) what you want. With a bit of structure it can become quite easy.

In dancing, moves look similar, but every body is different. This means, you need to find a way to make a move work for your body. You do this by trying the motion in its extreme forms: keep a very tight arm, or a very relaxed arm - then find something in between that works well for you.

In any other aspect of life its no different: you need to be able to map out most or all the possibilities in order to find the best possible solution.

A good lawyer knows all possible clauses and can structure a contract so that it fits right what you want.

A good actor can access hundreds of different techniques and emotions to embody whatever is needed at the moment.

Any high performer has an internal map of tools, skills & processes they use to excel in their profession.

Principle

Whatever you want to do, know what is possible to be able to choose well.

In the best case scenario, you of course try some of the possibilities to see whether you actually like them.

It’s going to be easier to know where & how you want to live if you’ve travelled to a bunch of countries and lived in a few different flats & houses.

It’s going to be easier to build a good relationship with your new partner, if you had & reflected on your past relationships on what you liked & didn’t like. And if you ask around and see how others set their life up. Or read a bunch of books on the topic.

Stop Rule

Stop taking standard solutions for everything in life.

Most healthy high performers lead a lifestyle particular to them. This is because - to do whatever they want to do it is necessary to set life up in a particular way.

Take a small area of your life where you’re feeling a bit discontent or confused with the situation. Instead of applying the first approach that comes up, spend some time researching & mapping out as many ideas as possible to improve that area.

Then try a few things and see what you like best.

It might be quite different from the standard solution people advise you on - but work far better for you.

“Reality is largely negotiable” - unknown though I read it first at Tim Ferris

What makes me lighten up?

See you next week - Michael

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